Life Lessons

"If you won't, somebody will"

Lately, this is been resounding in my head during my daily treks through life. Rather it be when im at work, as the boss with my employees, or if it's dealing with these females. As a boss, I have to remind my workers that they arent the last people out here wanting a job. This is a recession, people need and want jobs, and esp these young, fashionable, shoe fiend teens. People come to me daily asking for my employees position at Deveroes. At the moment, all my positions are filled, I have all the role players that I have space for. My bench is full and my starting players are on the court tryna hustle and get it. Most of my workers are hand picked by me.. I notice people at all times.. I try to be a good judge of character and I am always trying to have the best people around me... So when I see someone that might make my team stronger rather it be due to their personality or even their looks, I try to get them down with us. I want to come into my store and see all the workers and know that all my people seem like they should work here.
When acquiring a new prospect, you go thru the interview process. You never are really meeting the real person during this process, you are meeting their "agent". This is there rep that they are playing, not the real person on the inside. They would never talk back, slack around, be late, call off, steal or use their phone while in an interview bc they know I or anyone else would hire them if any of this went on.
So when you think you have a good pick, they start to get comfortable. They slack, they are late all the time, they ask for more hours but wanna leave early when they are at work, its always something. What is a MANager to do? I keep interviewing at all times. I always try to keep someone on deck so they know that this job isn't a right, its a priveledge. There is no contract, we have a open door policy, you can leave whenever, and I can have you gone when I feel like you are no longer useful. So don't ever get too comfortable.
You can we the parallel of being a boss of store and being the boss of your own life. You don't want to do everything by yourself. You want to have good partnerships right? So the hiring process is like dating. Before I even think about dating someone, I've prolly watched how they have acted or just seen what they were about from a distance. I never just see someone and go in for the kill. May be weird or old fashion but that's just Darrell. So after checking out the prospect and doing a few background checks, if things seem right, I go forward. So during the dating process, you get to meet the person's agent. This is the person that you will later be on the phone yelling with, the one who after calling every night at the same time has failed to call this whole weekend, not the one who you thought was the shit. You never get you food how it looks on the box. Your food never looks how it does on the commericial. This also applies to relationship. They never are who they say they are. He will never be there every night like he said he would. He will leave you hanging some nights with the babay that looks just like him and that u gave his last name. She will try to holla at one of your bestfriend and will never tell you. She will get a little too drunk and have sex with someone you know. These are all things that you would never know while trying to acquire a new team mate.

I digressed a lil bit, but i said all of that to say this... when all of the things are said and done, you cant feel as if that person is your last choice. Shit, someone else will do anything that you want them to do, if you open up and allow them. Just because I blocked everyone out while talking to you, that dont mean that I cant get them back. Thats what we all need to learn and know, from both sides of the fence. You have to know within yourself what u want, and what you will take, and what things you can kinda do without. Like me, for example, if I were looking for a female, some things that I would want would be, at least 22, not too skinny, a non smoker,has a car, good hair, good sense of fashion and a nice butt. Those are my little things that I look for. Knowing that people are all different, I got to know which ones can I live without and which ones cant I compromise. Say that I have a chick, she has good hair, good fashion, has a car but is under 21, and lives at home. I have to think, do I feel too old to be meeting someones parents when I want to come over? What about when we might wanna go out, she cant go when I can go, and I dont wanna go where she can... What makes you stay? I would have to say, it would be how they treat you. Do they act like they wanna be down or are they just cool either way? That would be the decision maker for me. Im at the age where I dont feel like playing the guessing game. If you like me, act like it. You wanna kiss me, lick your lips and look at mine or something.. sheit, that what i do when im thinkin about it... Tell me that I mean something to you. Know that if youre not, 95% of the time, someone is. I have learned that my shyness and lack of communication has left me in the dark with a few people. I couldve been with a few people if I just opened my mouth. Just this year alone, I have gotten DUMMY close to at least 4 gurls who I have been to scared to let them know how I felt about them. Each one, ended up being bad timing tho, but each of them have expressed the same feelings that I did with them.
How does that make me feel? its like a double edged sword. One on hand Im like "YESSSSS, i finally got her", then on the other hand I'm like, "FUCCCKKK, I couldda been had her". With each situation, Ive learned not to put people on so high of a pedestal, niggas bleed just like me, none of these chicks were so much better than me. So why not take advantage of the present? If you aint telling me how fresh I am when u see me, or you not smiling when I want in the room, or you not making random eye contact when Im close, or your not telling me how good I smell after I hug you, please believe, someone else is/will. Own your emotions and let them out sometimes or youll miss out..

Im speaking on this to you and to myself. I've experienced this from both sides of the fence. Ive been the one who has gotten too comfortable and let someone slip in.. Ive been the one who slipped in while another nigga got too comfortable, and ive been the nigga that a chick got too comfortable with and let someone take her place. Im just saying that postions are always availible in my life... Ive NEVER called anyone WIFEY... thats a position yet to be filled, and dont think I aint looking for one either... Ima chillin ass nigga.. but I always have my eyes open.. Im watching everyone go thru their thing. I like to see how some gurls are cool with being single and they are making it with or without a man... and i see some gurls who cant stand to be single.. who always have a new name comin out they mouth.. always going thru the ups and downs bc the men they choose dont get to the know the real them bc THEY dont even know the real them. I feel as if I need some ME time to know what I like, and want before I can expect someone else to be able to fill in..

so what side of the fence are you on with the person that u like??
are you too comfortable? Dont think you are the only person that likes them. I tell gurls this all the time that, the same thing you see in me at least 5 others gurls see it too.. So why not show me that u want me more than they do?? What are you doing better than your competition?? You gotta believe that if i feel as if youre worth competing for that Ima beat my competition everytime. Thats how Im supposed to feel..